Do your dreams speak to you???....

I'm sure everyone or most folks have bad dreams....I don't mean nightmares, I mean "bad dreams". There's only ever been a handful of dreams that I can say actually woke me up crying & so distraught that I have to make phone calls. I had one of those dreams last night and of course I woke me up in tears but I couldn't call my Mom because she was at work....
Any of my friends that know my mom know that she's a pretty upbeat person. My mom's a Tomboy & she's not one of those "I love you"-type moms. She says it but it's never been one of those everyday things where we say it whenever we part or hang up on the phone. She stays to herself A LOT & she has a very nonchalant personality. She could be facing lethal punishment & you wouldn't know it because she acts like she hasn't a care in the world. Not that she doesn't care, she just holds stress VERY well. Me on the other hand, I'm a worrier, I stress & I shut down if i feel like the world is against me..lol

From time to time I have shooting pains up & down my legs. The pain can be so bad that I have trouble walking, my feet swell and the touch of even a feather to my leg is like being electrocuted. I've been told by friends & family & even my doctor that I need to go to the ER when I get these pains so they can run tests.

I had dreamed my mom had found out she had some type of arthritis or condition in her legs that was causing her to have issues walking. The first portion of the dream started where she was finding out & she didn't really give it any extra thought, but she was telling me that I should get checked in the dream since my pain was similar. Then it cut away to like a month later. She had asked me to meet her at the mall to do some shopping. I was there with a couple friends of mine waiting on her to show up & here comes my mom in a WHEELCHAIR!!!. I was in complete shock, just watching her trying to get around. She didn't have a fancy "scooter store" wheelchair, she had a plain, uncomfortable wheelchair & you could tell she hasn't adjusted to it all the way. She comes in & talks to me & my friends like normal, like she's had this condition for years. Then she says she's gonna run in a particular store & she would be right back. No sooner than her being far enough that she couldn't hear me I turn away from the store & lost it Started crying like CRAZY!
I'm telling my friends that I can't believe what I'm seeing & I don't understand what happened & I'm trying to figure out why she didn't tell me it was this bad. We didn't even realize my Mom had came out & was standing behind us but she had heard everything. She says in her normal chipper voice "Y'all ready to shop?". We're all drying our eyes like & say "yeah", trying to play off our emotional breakdown and start walking. My friends are walking ahead of me & my Mom so we can talk but I couldn't take it anymore. I pulled her off to the side & just threw my hands around her & start crying telling her I love her & asking her why she didn't say anything. I could see her lips moving but I started realizing I was really crying & my body started waking up.

I sat up & thought to myself for like 30mins. I didn't know if this was a message that I need to go see a doctor; or I need to build a closer bond to my mom or any family for that matter. Am I suppressing stress or guilt? I started thinking even further-If this was happening to me, would my husband or friends & family be supportive & stand by me? I guess God is working with my mind-trying to build a stronger me but I can't help but to wonder....

Any thoughts anyone???

Comfort Zones - Part I

Comfort Zones

Have any of you been here before…?
I talked with a friend a couple days ago about “comfort zones” with a couple different scenarios.


“Friends with benefits”- Good for now…but what about later?
We talked about the comfort that we set up having “friends with benefits”. He said in the beginning, everything is GREAT. You work for them and they work for you. You (or your partner) thinks after a while things will progress & you both can come to an agreement to actually make things official. What happens when the conversation comes up? Maybe the opposite person expresses that they don’t want to change that status for a number or reasons but they assure you that there’s no need to worry. Ya’ll continue on as normal but a couple months later or even a couple years later & things go haywire, and I mean so bad that you lose the benefits AND the friend. Now you’re no longer sure of them and you’re unsure of yourself. We discussed why we set ourselves up for this…

People go in with clear intentions, but develop unclear intentions: The two of you may have started out knowing this was all it was supposed to be. The problem with that is sex brings people together with a tremendous connection that we think we can control or suppress but peoples’ emotions end up getting the best of them.

People go along with false hopes: One partner goes in thinking “they don’t want to date me now, but I can change that.” BAD IDEA: It could work, but 9 times out of 10 it doesn’t.

People continue because of false promises: One partner expresses the desire to be something more; the other one does not & won’t tell them that. They’ll just drop little “bread-crumb promises” just to keep them tagging along. They put up fronts, act jealous or even indulge in other things to make their partner think that they are potentially special. Let’s face it-everybody has “potential” but everyone doesn’t make it.

People deliberately get you where they want you, “comfortable”, so that they can do as they choose: This is usually a manipulator that’s out for a bigger cause (ie: money, popularity, power)


Let me know what you think. Anything to add? Any Disagreements?
Look out for Part II - the next scenario of Comfort Zones